V KThe hardest part about being a parent is setting your own example. It is so easy to tell kids what is the right thing to do, but actually doing it is a very different.

Today I washed both cars with my kids (Jonah 8, Hannah 3). It would have been so much easier to pay $20 and take cars to carwash. Well, after two hours of hard labor, the kids feel that they accomplished something, I feel tired and proud of both them.

Nigel Davies adds:

Given my own son's dislike of being told what to do I figure the best may be to lead by example, spend as much time as possible with him and listen rather than talk. And come to think of it these are all good traits for market people.

GM Davies is the author of Play 1 e4 e5: A Complete Repertoire for Black, Everyman, 2005

Legacy Daily writes:

Children teach us by example as well. They have the ability to bring out the best in their parents — and sometimes the worst. They carefully and subconsciously set up tests to bring parents to extremes to examine the behaviors and to learn from those. Their rate of learning is far beyond our rate of feeding them information. Therefore, they are programmed to learn by observation, through play, through others. Through this process, they create many opportunities for us to learn as well.





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  1. Anonymous on July 31, 2009 8:50 am

    Children see everything. they observe everything esp about parents. They want to have some one that they admire and respect someone that they can be proud of and brag to their friends about. It is hard to instill a work ethic if you sit on your a** while someone else mows lawn cleans pool cleans house etc. I developed my own work ethic by watching my mother work hard her whole life. And she never asked for anything in return. I am big on examples. When I was young my family never used certain profane words such as f***. To this day, I hate hearing that word despite the seeming ubiquity of it. I even hear children under 10 use it. Wonder where they got it from? Next time have the kids mow the lawn, wash car, clean pool clean house wash clothes and pay them the money it would have cost you to have a servant do it. Then they will have their own money to use to go to dinner, movies, buy their own clothes, ipods books and other essentials. You both will be better off in the long run.

  2. Steve Leslie on July 31, 2009 11:33 am

    Tony Robbins motivational speaker, discussed an interview he had with the Commandant of the Marines. He asked him how do you take a young boy of 18 and within 10 or 12 weeks turn him into a marine. His reply was simple he explained that most of the boys who enlist have no structure in their life. They were never explained organization, discipline, accountability, responsibility etc. The Commandant went on. He explained that immediately we provide that structure to their life. Their whole days are planned out for them. They wake up at the same time, they have carefully planned activities and classes they attend. They learn the chain of command. At the end of the program, they are ready to be called Marines.

    I attended as a coach a basketball camp held by the local College Coach. He explained how he conducted practices. He explained. He said first thing we do is work on the fundamentals. We have a variety of drills that we go through. This takes up to 1/2 and sometimes 3/4 of every practice. The remaining time is spent on running plays, strategy, situational events such as presses etc. Finally, they end every practice with foul shots. He emphasized that practices are focused, directed and coreographed. Not a minute is wasted.

    A light went off in my dull head that maybe just maybe they had something here.

    For more on this I strongly recommend this article Grassroots Leadership the U.S. Military Academy. Look me up on Facebook love to hear from you.



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