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1-Jun-2006
Reaction to Losses, from Janice Dorn

Jason Schroeder said:

When I act inappropriately with respect to a loss, the little voice inside screams out asking why do I hate myself so much? why do I hate my trading account?

I have no answer but I still am halted from acting.

Janice Dorn reply:

You have no answer because you are paralyzed by fear and self-loathing, The answer is too painful to hear, so you prefer to lie to yourself via the sound of silence. No one wants to deal with toxic shame. The answer lies in responding, not reacting.

One must learn to take personal responsibility for all actions, including those against oneself. Once you see that you are the problem, you know that you are the solution.

Once you accept that you are not perfect, that you are human, frail and fallible, you become more comfortable in your own skin.

That is a good start.

Forgive yourself, be gentle with yourself, and move on.

10-Apr-2006: Uplifting Words, by Janice Dorn